Saying I love you? Help will pick a best answer!!?

Help! known my partner since 2005. Started dating him in 2007. Moved in with him that same year and have been With him since. And he has said to me that we are meant to b together. That we r soul mates &we will always b together. That he wants 2marry me. That he wants to have kids w/me. YET has never said I LOVE YOU. I write it to him in cards, text messages, emails etc... But I haven't said it. I tried saying it once in 2008 I said it on a drunken night when we were kissing I LOVE YOU. He responded w/don't ever say that to me again I asked y he said bcuz I have said it too many times b4 & they have all broken my heart. I started crying &that made him cry. Ever since I never attempted 2say it again verbally. He has said it twice that I remember but he was really drunk &he said it outloud & in public& blacked out &didn't remember anything the next day & he tells ppl he loves me when I'm not around & brags about me or when he ***** up he tells them he feels bad & approaches me all sad. But he never ever says I love you, or why he loves me. He never ever compliments me tells me I look good or that I look nice even when his friend compliment me all night long he doesn't. He also never apologizes when he makes me mad or whenever he hurts my feelings. his way is just to hug me and kiss me.I don't know how to tell him. I mean I know he loves me but I don't like the way he loves me! I wished he showed it to me everyday. Flowers, compliments, making me feel special from any other girl. He treats me like any other friend except he lives with me, we kiss hug and have sexual relations.& he wants to marry me. I asked him why he wants to marry me he says because I want you to have my babies and kisses me& laughs& when I ask wat do u like about me he says everything. :/ is this normal? How do I tell him? Just cos he doesn't say it could it mean he doesnt? Is it dumb to marry when we've never said I love u?I love him a lot!& it shows even his friends point it out! Help